Monday, 2 November 2015

Why I formula feed Blake

Making the best decisions for your child is hard work. 
I found it especially hard when it came to deciding to formula feed Blake. 

It wasn't an easy decision for me as I really wanted to breastfeed. 
I had read books and information online but nothing really prepared me for what it was going to be really
like and how damn hard it actually is. 

I had actually read that as soon as your baby is born it is best to try and breastfeed your baby as soon as possible to try and get breastfeeding established. 

Now when it came to us Blake was born by an emergency C-section and unfortunately we didn't get skin to skin straight away and I didn't even get help to try and breastfeed for over 12 hours. 
When I finally did I really struggled to get Blake to latch on and as he was getting so hungry it 
was recommended that we mixed feed. 

So for the first four weeks of Blake's life he was mixed fed and I found myself in a lot of pain whenever I was breastfeeding and was feeling sore, tired and emotionally drained. 
I felt like Blake was hungry all the time and whenever I was breastfeeding I was sat there for ages trying to get him to latch on and we were both getting frustrated.

It didn't help that I was constantly worried about Blake loosing weight. 
The hospital had informed me before we had been discharged that if he wasn't getting enough milk then 
if he was loose too much weight he would most likely end up back there.
This obviously didn't help with the way I was feeling. 

It was then that I realized that I had to make a tough decision to formula feed even though I had really wanted to breastfeed. After all isn't it your child that is the most important? and making sure that they have the milk they need even if it is formula?
To me all that is important is that your child is fed and is happy. 
happy baby equals happy mummy. 

Blake is flourishing and such a happy baby that I feel that I made the best decision in the end. 


  1. You did the right thing for your baby. I'm sure that Blake will grow healthy and handsome! And you're amazing mother.

  2. I tried to breastfeed little J because all through my pregnancy I was told it was best. Unfortunately it didn't last very long and he was formula fed from 2 months old. I did what was best for us/

  3. I tried for 9 days to breastfeed my little one but didn't get an ounce of milk! Shame really, I hear a lot about babies not latching yet mine latched great. Sounds like you did the right thing, I've known mums who have continued to BF despite it being a battle and getting themselves all stressed out; no good for mum or bairn. Well done for talking about it, so many formula mums feel they need to keep quiet xx

  4. You did the right thing for Blake and that makes you a great mummy. I also formula fed my son. I breastfed for a few days but after a blood transfusion, etc. I was just too weak to do it all on my own.

  5. My baby is 14 weeks and I am thinking about switching to formula as she has various issues. It's such a hard decision to make but we all do what we think is best for them x

  6. You have to do what is right for you and baby, and it looks like he is thriving, well done! x

  7. You made the right decision hun and I am so glad that you stuck by your guns. Look how healthy Blake looks!

  8. Every baby is different and so is every mummy, and you do what's right for each other, it's a tough choice but it looks like the right one.

  9. I hate it when people are all 'breast is best' and don't listen to the reasons behind people choosing to formula feed. Mine was simply because I didn't feel I'd ever be able to go out in public with my two if I breast fed. And their dad wouldn't be able to feed them either. I don't think it matters which way you feed as long as both mother and baby are happy :)

    Louise x

  10. Every mother and child is unique and different and you are clearly doing what works and is the best for your family. Angela

  11. Congrats Mama, that is a hard decision to make. Although I am also a believer in the "breast is best" philosophy, I also chose to formula feed my daughter after the first month. Breastfeeding is damn hard work and I was disappointed that my daughter couldn't gain all of the benefits from it, but in the end I had to do what was best for both of us, which was formula feeding. She took to it really well, and never had any growth issues as her doctor suggested she might since she was less than 6 lbs at birth. I'll try breastfeeding again with my next baby, but now I know not to feel guilty if it doesn't work out how we expect amd that my baby can still be happy and healthily formula fed.

  12. Great post. With all the Brest is Best stuff people are often afraid to even say they use formula. Well done on sharing x

  13. It sounds to me like you made the right decision for you and your family. And Blake is obviously thriving. I hate that people always feel that they have to defend their decision on how they feed their baby. I had a similar experience which meant that Little Miss H's first feed was formula and she was breast fed, expressed breast fed and formula fed. But forcing myself to keep going with breast feeding when it wasn't working almost drove me mad. I just wish it was easier for women to make the right decisions for their family without feeling guilty. Thanks for sharing your story. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

  14. It must have been a hard decision but I'm sure you made the right one. There's nothing wrong with formula feeding :) well done and I'm glad Blake is doing well xx