Saturday, 13 May 2017

My Mental Health Story



I have recently noticed an increase of people being more open about mental health problems. Not just because of it being Mental Health Awareness Week but because of wanting to help beat the stigma surrounding mental health I wanted to write about my experience/s. 

Back in July last year I wrote the post Stress, Anxiety and Me where I admitted about how I was struggling with anxiety and feeling stressed. I thought today I would go into a bit more detail about my experiences of both Depression and Anxiety. 


Being Bullied

When I was at school I was bullied quite frequently. I was also the loner that no one seemed to want to spend time with. I had a few friends but there were times where I spent break and lunch time on my own. I've always been quiet and introverted and so maybe that was one of the reasons that I was picked on.  

What the bullies didn't realise was how the way they treated me was affecting my mental health. I was also pretty good at hiding how was feeling too and no one can know the inward battle that others are facing.  During my time at high school I had to struggle with suicidal feelings. There were a few occasions quite where I had time off school "ill" due to having taken an overdose without telling my parents and which made me feel pretty ill and which I passed off as a sickness bug. 


Losing my Dad

I lost my Dad when I was 18 and this had a big impact on me. Loosing a parent at any age is heartbreaking but when you are suffering from undiagnosed mental illness its so much worse. I really did struggle and I am so thankful for Stuart for helping me when I was going through such a hard time. I eventually took the step to speak to someone where I started taking medication and having counselling. Over time I started to feel much better and was able to come off medication so that Stuart and I could start a family. 


Becoming a Mum
Having Blake has also impacted on my mental health. This time round rather than feeling low and depressed I've suffered from frequent bouts of anxiety and panic attacks. I do feel that this is because I now have to not worry about myself but my child too. I feel constant worry about him, I still sometimes panic about whether he is breathing when he is sleeping and when he is doing activities such as climbing on the big slide or when on the swings and Stuart is pushing him high. I've always been a worrier as far back as I can remember and I also struggle with feeling overwhelmed from time to time which stresses me out. For me stress and anxiety seem to go hand in hand a lot of the time. I find that for example Blake is a fussy eater and when dinner time is a battle of not wanting to try new foods I end up feeling stressed which then makes me anxious about if he is getting enough food and all the right nutriants needed. 


Now

Reflecting on my life and things I have gone through and also struggled with makes me understand my mental health a lot more. I like to hope that I am coping a lot better now and yes I am on medication but its working for me at current.  

If you are reading this and are suffered from mental health issues make sure you get some help. Its not something you should at all feel ashamed of, talk to the ones you love and trust, speak to your GP, write down how you feel, get your thoughts and feelings out it really does help. 

28 comments:

  1. Well done for sharing your story. I think it's great that people are being more open about mental illness and trying to stop the stigma that surrounds it. I suffered PND for three years and it was so hard and not many people understood what it was like. My anxiety has been through the roof over the past few months with this pregnancy but I'm not afraid to reach out for help if and when I need it x

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  2. It sounds like you've gone through some tough times but it's good to hear that you're feeling more positive now :)

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  3. Its good that you are sharing this post, it will help others to realise that there are many people going through the same as they are and its ok to speak out and share your feelings with others.

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  4. I suffered for a long time with severe anxiety, it is much better now but I never felt like I could openly talk about it. It's great to see so many more people opening up about mental health and helps people to see they are not alone.

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  5. Thanks for sharing, awareness of mental health issues is so important! :)

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  6. How very brave of you to share your experience and whilst many are sharing there is still some stigma but good on you and I am sure this will encourage someone whose in the same situation

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  7. Sorry to hear about your dad. Losing a parent at a young age is hard. My mom passed away when I was 20

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  8. You're so brave to write about this and although it may sound like an odd thing to say, I'm so glad you've shared this to help others realize they're not alone x

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  9. This is so interesting to read, so brave to share. It is just so surprising just how different things affect different people. So being kind is so important as we don't know how people will react to the things we do to them x

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  10. Your story is so important because it goes to show how mental health can affect any of us at any time. The things we take for granted like having a parent around, or having a child or just going to school can ultimately cause that mental deterioration and it's good to know there's help out there.

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  11. Good for you sharing your story Joanna ad I am glad the medication is helping you to feel more in control. Mich x

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  12. Sorry for all you have gone through and you are so brace to share your story. I still need to get up the courage to do mine.

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  13. Well done for sharing your story! It takes a lot of bravery to share stories like this! I was bullied a lot in school as well...

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  14. Well done for sharing your experience. Losing your dad must have been tough. Glad the tablets are working for you xx

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  15. You have been through some hard times, but it looks like you have made it to the top. I'm glad to hear you are doing well.

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  16. I am happy to see many people are now willing to talk about their mental health. A lot more needs to be said. Well done for speaking out.

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  17. Well done on sharing your mental health story. It's great that more of us are feeling confident to share our mental health experiences x

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  18. Depression and Anxiety are very widespread and I think it is great how you are writing about your experiences and life events that have triggered these. Keep smiling :) x

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  19. Thank you for sharing. I was bullied at school, too. It was relentless. And when I became pregnant, these bullies added me on FB just because they were n nosey. Acted like they'd never bullied or beaten me up. I ended up deleting and blocking them as I can't and won't forgive them. Especially as they never apologized. I didn't realise that declining a Mum would affect my MH. I never did get help and looking back I wish I had.

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  20. I wish people would talk more about their mental issues, well done you for getting the right treatment and working through your issues. R

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  21. You should be proud of yourself for being able to speak out about the issues you've been facing, so well done. Everyone has highs and lows, and medication to help reduce the lows is nothing to be ashamed of xx

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  22. Big thanks for sharing your story, I have suffered since a young age and I now am able to control my moods etc but it took a long time and a lot of heart ache. I hope to be brave enough to share my story one day x x

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  23. Sorry to hear what you went through it can't of been easy, its very important to share metal health posts.

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  24. I'm so happy to hear that you're feeling much better now! It's amazing how open people are being with mental health - it really is amazing!

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  25. So sorry to hear about your dad, I think that would affect me too. I found counselling really helped me so might be worth seeking it out

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  26. You're so brave to share this with us and awareness of mental health issues, Glad you share this

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  27. So. Rave for sharing your story, I'm not grave enough to write mine just yet, I was bullied quite badly at school and it had a knock on Effect later on life, I am now able to cope much better though thanks to some great help, do t suffer in silence talk to someone is what I say

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  28. Well done you for sharing your story. It takes some guts to bare your soul

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